The Fast Track...Day 1

There's probably not many of you left out there still reading me. I can't believe I dropped the ball just at a time when I was getting readership. Anywhoo, here goes...



I have embarked on what I believe to be my very first official diet. Sure, over the years I have given up this or cut back on that. I have had my exercises fanatical days and my low carb seasons. But, this is the first time I am with in very strict perimeters of a diet that is specifically aimed at cleaning and detox the colon and the liver. It is called The Fast Track One-Day Detox Diet. (Link above...i hope)



Here's a little back story.

-Met a boy and he made me smile.

-Three months later it's a deal.

-His influence is powerful because I love him.

-Now I follow a strict summer detox that he has done in the past, loves and is far more diligent and excited about than me that lasts for a total of 11 days.



But, it is something we can do together (I keep telling myself). It's something that we can share the benefits of together. It means we can cook together. Share ideas for snacks together. Encourage and motivate each other. Even keep tabs on each other to ensure that neither is falling off the detox wagon.



So it begins with 7 days of stocking up and chowing down liver loving foods. (i.e. Greens nobody likes, fruits and veggies that make you gaseous, and protein the size of the palm of your hand in the form of lean chicken, beef or fish. Not to mention things like Flax - what the F is Flax? - a few berries here and there, olive oil, and half your body weight in water a day.) But it also means staying away from the things that clog our liver, toxi-fy our body, and cling to our colon. (i.e. Coffee, alcohol even WINE!, breads, gluten, pastas, fried foods, soy products, sugars and anything that ends in "uctose" as well as any and all dairy.) On the eighth day you fast for 24 hours with only water intake and juice they call "Miracle Juice." It consists of Cranberry Juice (natural of course) and some spices of nutmeg, lemon, etc. Then after most likely "gettin' rid of the rottens" you spend the next 3 days replenishing your fluids and your good bacteria with some supplements and lots of good healthy yogurts and greens.



Now, I must admit, I consider myself a person with a strong sense of conviction and dedication. When I set my mind to something I feel that 9 out of 10 times I accomplish or fulfill to a satisfactory outcome. And, so far this is how it went...



DAY #1 MONDAY

I woke up with a whisper of a hang over. It could have actually been a hang over from Saturday masked by margaritas and wine on Sunday only to rear it's soft subtle head on Monday. A hangover nonetheless was present. So was the boyfriend. (For the sake of this blog and any future one's he will be known as Zondry.) There we were, Zondry and I, scrambling eggs with broccoli and mustard greens in olive oil. The night before we had done some mild one or two day shopping of must have items: A couple of pears and oranges.; a big clove of garlic and a large onion; some odd greens like cilantro, mustard greens, and chard; carrots and lean chicken breast.

I did very well. I jokingly wined about craving coffee. I gave total poker face when Zondry asked if I had a headache. I mustered up a smile (could have been a wince) and said..."No not really..." While thinking..."Nothing a little cup o' java couldn't cure!" He gave his signature "ha!" Which is this adorable nervous laugh he has after he knows more than someone else has actually revealed, when he doesn't know what to do with the dead air, when he feels like being polite and when he hasn't really been listening. It's actually quite cute. Adorable in fact. This toothy, airy, comforting, "Ha" that has just a linger of a sustained awww sound. He preps me on what to expect for the day with my hunger pains, headaches, and possible withdrawal symptoms. (What am I, a junkie?) He promises to cook my first dinner that night and have it waiting in the fridge when I come home from the night shift. (He really is that devoted to the diet)

I suffered that day. No matter how many pears or carrots I ate, my hangover stomach and caffeine headache just would NOT let up. But, I made it. I drank copious amounts of water. I didn't cheat. I didn't have a glass of wine from the three beautiful bottles staring me in the face from my kitchen. I made it home to grilled chicken over more mustard greens and asparagus sauteed with olive oil and garlic. It tasted like heaven and I loved it more because just the thought of Zondry brought his scent into my memory and the dish was peppered with Bond St. #9 cologne.

Day #1.
Mood Swings - 0.
Tired Level (0-10) - 8
Hunger Level (0-10) - 9
Cheats - 0
Cravings - 2 (Peanut Butter and Coffee)

I Bow to The Queens

A few months back, I had an incredible "overheard" moment. I had arrived early (SHOCKER!) to a bar where my friends who are always late were planning to hang for the night. I knew no one, but it did not stop me from sliding my ’fatter-than-normal-lately’ ass on to a bar stool that stood at a cocktail table and quickly summon my server to bring me a Maker’s Mark on the rocks. Maker’s is something I have been drinking during these colder months. It’s nice, but too many can reek havoc the next morning. So, I generally switch to Stella as soon as I feel the bourbon buzz.
Next to my three-top cocktail table stood three boys. Although, they were all clearly over the age of 21, they were still boys. And not because of their ages, but because of what I overheard. Just to give you some visual perspective, they were all above average height, above average looks, and they all were plain and boring. Simple faces with simple haircuts (all with no variation from the other) on top of what clearly were simple minds.

In no particular order I heard things like this. (Embellishments and liberties have been taken...so roll with it.)
one boy: "I mean, I just don’t get it. Sure, I want to get married or have the right to. But the type of people that are standing up for it in the media are, like, fat lesbians, and bear daddies."
another boy: "I mean, let’s face it, it’s sort of the ugly, retarded types who want to get married. Or at least that is what it looks like. Is it mean that I just said that? I mean, you guys know what I mean, right?"
the third boy: "I totes know what you mean. (okay, so he probably didn’t say totes...but it makes the story sound oh so much better.)I just feel like there are, like, certain types of gay people. There’s, like, us. And other’s like us. And then there’s like, drag queens, and trannies, and lesbians. I just don’t get the drag queens?"
one boy: "I kinda don’t get it. I mean why can’t all gay people be more normal."

At this point, it is taking every muscle in my body to tame my tongue and lock my loud mouth. So, needless to say , I ordered another Maker’s Mark since I sucked the first one down in an attempt to bite my tongue. Chewing the straw made me drink it faster I guess. There were more things tossed around the conversation round cocktail table. Things about lesbians being "just different." There were more comments about how they love some drag queens but don’t get the others. Lots of talk of "normal." What the fuck IS Normal?

So, this is my shout out to the queens, the trannies, the ho’s, the movers and the shakers, and the button pushers, the ones who are out, the ones who are loud, the ones with bellys and hair on their chests. I fucking love you. I worship you. I idolize you. I sometimes dress up like you. I sing along to your songs. I learned how to lip synch because of you. My runway skills have gone from "Wha’ the F*K?" to "WOOOORRRRKKK!" I have scored some major free drinks because of you. I have met some crazy tranny chasers because of you. I have made friends with you. I have serenaded you. I have toasted to you and with you. I have given you jobs. I have fired you. I have dragged my ass out on my only night off to air kiss your beat face and watch you make dozens of happy homos that much happier and drunker (is that a word?). I bought your single. I celebrated your birthday. I walk proudly down the street arm and arm with you. You teach me to be unafraid. You teach me to hold my head up even higher than my arrogant ass thought I could. You make me realize what it takes to be yourself. You make it look so natural and you always look gorgeous to me! Fat, thin, goth, old school, dirty, sexy, cool, soft, sweet, singer, lipsyncher, performance artist, musician. Anyone with bravery and balls. (Literally and Figuratively)
You know who you are and you are BEAUTIFUL dammit! Despite what a table of 20-something, flat ironed, flat faced, thin browed, drab, grey, plain white T-wearin’, above average "Normal" gay BOY says!
You paved the way and still continue to do so.
I love you. I thank you.
You better work!!!

Dee in Dolce

We will call him Dee. This will stand for his designer douche bagness and his dee-lite that he added to my night. Let me fist describe Dee. He's a little bit chubby if I'm going to stoop to the shallow edges of myself. Dee is tall. Dee is young (23-25). Dee is also drunk. He's feminine without being tranny. He is stumbling and fumbling somewhere he is not supposed to be and I politely ask if he needs assistance and guide him in the proper direction out of the basement of the bar. How he got there in the first place is beyond me. The following is my 2 min and 2 sec exchange with Dee.

(Oh and btw, I was also on a phone call)

Me: Can I help you? You shouldn't be down here?
Dee: Wha? I just...ummm...I am looking for drag queens.
Me: Well, we don't keep them in the basement here. Besides, I think they left.
Dee: (Pause with an open mouth stare then finally in his best valley girl voice)...Um...geez sorry I am wearing dolce. (Which could also be Sorry. I AM wearing Dolce.)
Me: What? That's nice. Now right this way up this flight of stairs. Watch your step.

Dee stops dead in her tracks and he says: "Do you know? I mean where on earth can you find Micheal (insert long weird name of some designer perhaps)? I mean you can't find him in New York..."
Me: Excuse me? I don't understand what you just said?
Dee: Puhleeeessseeee, I am just saying...
Me: (interrupting) I am not sure what you are saying because it has been nothing but hoots and clicks since I found you stumbling around. Can you please head up these stairs and I will show you out.

Dee begins to work up the stairs. This is different than walking up a flight of stairs. It's runwaying up the stairs. Work! But, just before he reaches the top of the stairs he speaks in his best Janice Dickinson and says...

"You're a poor bitch."

Me: Excuse me? What's that supposed to mean?
Dee: You heard me. A poor Bitch! This is Dolce+.

With that he shonteyed* out the door and back into the gay fray of Therapy bar.

+Apparently Dolce is this really tacky black jacket with horrible black floral stitching on it. But, also apparently it makes you NOT Poor!
*shontey is a word used by Rupaul in her hit song Supermodel. It's really spelled Shante. At least according to her liner notes inside the CD. But, since I am a poor bitch who can't afford an education, I made up this spelling. I am certain my pal Dee would know the proper spelling of this FABULOUS word from the fashion and pop culture vernacular

Enough is Enough

He did not cancel. He texted when he was running late. He brought STELLA because he knows already. He brought popcorn...because he read my myspace profile. It was the old fashioned kind and he taught me to pop it in a pot with some oil and shake it over the stove. He brought his favorite seasonings, butter, salt, pepper, raisins and nuts. It was fun. My batch turned out better than his. He matched me drink for drink. We watched Project Runway. We watched will and grace. He drank what i was drinking. (we had one bottle of white and one bottle of red) He told me he was jealous of the coziness of my apartment. He laughed a lot. He made me laugh. He told me about his life. He held my hand....a lot. He kissed me a lot. He finally let me touch his belly even though he is insecure about it. He threw me on the couch and tore my clothes off and then respected my wishes to move slowly. He made penis jokes that weren't too corny. He then stayed another hour longer than he said he would. He complimented my looks. He praised our first date. He asked for another date. He left at 1:50am....It was well worth the over 4 month wait. Well worth it. Even though it never happened again.

Because...

It still was not enough for him.

Dreams Lend To Reality

I had a dream last night. I have tried to so hard to stifle you and bury you that you have entered my subconscious mind and now I have had my first dream. Isn't that the way the world works. Just when you think they are out of your mind the have entered an entire different realm.

The clouds were low in my dream. Like, right by my window-low. They were puffy and thick and I was sitting on my window ledge hanging my legs out the window letting the thick fog of the clouds run over my legs leaving a murky film over my shins and calves. I heard my name. I couldn't see down to the street through the thick and cumulus clouds to see who was calling me. But, when I heard my name it was as if it was softly whispered in my ear, even though I knew it was coming from five flights below. My name kept being called, so I stood on the ledge of my window and dove into the clouds using them as cushions and bouncing from one to the other until I landed on one cloud right above the sidewalk. There you were. It was you. You were calling my name. But why? You looked up and tried to swipe away at the clouds to get a better view of me. You told me to fall into your arms. I began to panic. I didn't know how I was going to get back up to my window five flights above. I tried grabbing on to clouds but no luck. I tried leaping onto one above me. But, every time I landed on one it made the cloud sink a level lower. The last thing I wanted in this dream was to fall into your arms. You stood there. In your postman sort of outfit. Pressed shorts and a nice polo. You smiled but it could have passed for a cynical sneer. You kept telling me that I could fall into your arms. But, the thing was, you weren't holding your arms out. I started to call to you to hold your arms out. I knew I was falling. I knew there was a chance that I might not make it up to my window ledge. You still didn't throw your arms out. You stood there. Stoic. Sneering/Smiling. With your hands in your pockets. Whispering my name and telling me to trust you. But, you didn't lift your arms. I was so tired of fighting the clouds. I laid on my back and sank into one. My dream moved to slow motion. I passed by three clouds on my way to you. I passed by you. You didn't catch me. You stood with your cynicism in tact and your hands wringing in your pockets. I sank into the ground which seemed to be made of a soft slate colored sand. It was moving so slowly. The sand began to wrap around my legs, my body, and soon my face. I blew at the sand to keep it from my mouth and when I did, I created a strong enough wind that you blew over as if you were made of paper. The deterioration of your reality inspired strength in me and I began to sit up and wade out of the sand until I could grab a cloud and rest on it. You were a paperdoll. I made another blowing gesture and it was aimed right at you. You picked up and were whisked away in a moment. I sat with relief and comfort at the fact that you were not real. I made it back to my window ledge determined to never again to fall for a paperdoll just because they can be beautiful and joyful.

I thought I was first.
But I also thought you were real.
I can admit to being wrong.
You will never have this privilege.

Announcement

The show is over. And all future performances will be cancelled.

It all doesn't seem to matter anymore.

All the things I wished I had said or done.

I have so many ideas, thoughts, proposals, adventures planned in my mind that will never come to fruition.

That's because my external world is a reflection of my internal world. Which I won't elaborate on at this juncture.

That's because if I actually do anything I say I will do, I will be alone. I would leave the comfort of all of us who have so much to say about everything but little to do with anything. I don't want to be alone especially in my thoughts. I don't want to be different. I certainly don't want to feel segregated from other's. But, most of all, I don't want other's to feel that segregation from me.

So we continue to pedal beside each other. Sometimes going up hill just a bit faster than one. Sometimes one is sliding downhill ahead of me.

I drench myself in the camaraderie of others.

Please agree with me. Please believe with me. Please stay here with me. Please be with me.

So, I cancel my shows. I keep them locked inside my dreams. Dreams that can often feel like nightmares. Shows that will only make me a more difficult person. Shows that require too much from me and my audience.

The show is cancelled with no rain date decided.

Climbing Up Hill

The meadow is filled with men. Shirtless, frisbee-throwing, cargo-sportin', mostly heterosexual, metro MEN.

It's astonishing. Every summer my first time in the meadow is like the first time ever. I still can't believe this many beautiful bodies exist and that they are all here on a weekend tossing a ball, reading a book, massaging their girlfriend's feet.

When did straight men get so pretty, and so fit, and so primped? 13 year old boys have 8 packs. 40 year old men have cum gutters and shaved pecs. I take my shirt of with a studied nonchalance I have grown so good at tossing around. I look down and see empanadas and beer, ben and jerry's and skittles, pancakes and whole milk in my coffee. And that's just what I see when I look at my stomach.

Unicorns and Libras

The balloon he twisted and shaped into and Odie-look-a-like was charming and playful. He handed it to me with my name on the collar. How youthful. He encouraged my own balloon making and creativity and stood behind me with his arms and hands serving as instructors.

The photos of his nieces and nephews plastered all over his mantle and bed stand show is devotion and loyalty. He speaks of his brother and his sister almost every time we talk.

His apartment is wall-papered with books. As well as his nightstand and desk. Moby Dick is his current literary endeavor. This after completing the Harry Potter Series for the second time in anticipation of the 7th installment.

His glasses are EMO with out being pretentious. His jeans are frayed from use not from dollars. His T-Shirt falls on him so comfortably, as if his chest hair is the grass underneath a picnic blanket.

His conversation is always full-bodied, intense with out being overwhelming, intellectual with out being arrogant, academic with out being droning, and passionate without being aggressive.

His friendships are strong, committed and full of effortless efforts.

His talents are art and photography as well as working with children.

He takes yoga because he likes what the teacher says in class not because he wants a six pack or gain access to his toes. He reads up on Buddhism, homeopathic medicines, spirituality and doesn't commit to any one fully.

He orders pasta with no reservation.

He has braved the city for over 10 years. He has stared familiar death in the face more than once. He has had his heartbroken and performed the breaking himself.

He enjoys the cocktails but doesn't smoke. He has no addictions or fearful habits that are not under control.

He listens to The Weepies and The Gossip.

He writes in a journal. He attends the theatre. He travels.

He does things like...lifting his and my shirts up to expose our chests while lying in bed for the first time and presses our torsos together. Skin to Skin. Holding me tight and nibbling my ear he says things like..."this feels so nice. Doesn't it?"

It does.

But, this is all I see of him. Now. At least. He is a Unicorn.

I am a Libra. There is a balancing act. And, this unicorn impression I am getting is exactly why one day before my date with the Unicorn, I will meet up with the Jew who lives in Brooklyn but wishes for the LES, only wears skinny Diesel jeans, carries a huge purse, has no ambitions, holds on to his heritage because he likes Shabbat dinners, smokes, sleeps in, has nothing hanging on his walls, won't accompany me to the theatre, and leaves everyone thinking he is a huge Bitch and we will get drunk and have sex.

This will be less than 24 hours before I nervously and excitedly meet up with the unicorn and ultimately not put out.

And, I will never understand this about myself.